Without Boundaries, it would be hard to define myself. Without them, it would be hard to know myself. Without boundaries, I may not feel that I have a Self. And without boundaries, I can't have a healthy self. So by being aware of and having healthy boundaries, I can define and know myself, know that I have a self, and have a healthy self.
A key to our boundaries is knowing our inner life. Our Inner life includes our beliefs, thoughts, feelings, decisions, choices, and experiences. It also includes our wants, needs, sensations within our body, our intuitions and even unconscious factors in our life. If we are unaware of or out of touch with our inner life, we can't know all of our boundaries and Limits. When we are aware of our inner life, we can more readily know our boundaries.
The actively co-dependent person tends to be fixed in either few or no boundaries, boundarylessness, or the opposite, overly rigid boundaries. And they often flip-flop between these. Because they focus so much of their attention outside of themselves, they tend to be less aware of their inner life, and thus less aware of their boundaries.
Another key to having healthy boundaries is flexibility and adaptability. When we are able to be flexible and adaptable in any relationship - without being mistreated or abused - we can know ourselves in a deeper and richer way. And we can let go more easily into the experience of that relationship to enjoy both its fun aspects and its growth points. In our day - to- day experience we have many opportunities for growth. That growth includes physical, mental, emotional and spiritual realms of our awareness, experience and consciousness. Awareness of our boundaries helps us in that growth.
If you are interested in accessing more of who you truly are, being part of a support group with other like-minded Women, in a safe environment of respect and acceptance, then please feel free to contact me for more information.